Rekindling An Old Relationship

Almost everyone has thoughts on whether you should get back together with an ex. Most people say that you shouldn’t look backwards, only forward, while others aren’t so certain and think maybe with enough time there could be a possibility to rekindle an old spark.

What was the relationship like the first time around? Why did it end? If there was no big dramatic reason for the demise of the relationship then you might have more reason to give it another shot. Timing truly is the most important part of any relationship and maybe your timing just wasn’t right back then. With age and experience, two people could come back together that weren’t quite right for each other before. Maybe someone moved away and a few years later moved back. Or one person had lost a job and wasn’t able to be a good partner at that time. There are many reasons why a relationship could fail but if there is still a love there then it’s possible to bring it back to life.

If your family and friends are supportive of you giving the relationship another go then that’s definitely a good sign that you should consider that as an option. Your inner circle has a more objective view on your past relationships and will be a good source to seek counsel since they truly want what’s best for you.

On the flip side, if those closest to you have very strong feelings against you rekindling with this person then you should definitely listen to what they have to say. The person who is right for you will get along with your people and will smoothly blend into your life. Having someone by your side that your family disapproves of will cause problems for many years to come and will be a trigger for many fights down the road.

Take some time and journal why you are considering bringing this person back into your life. What value did they bring? How did you feel during that relationship? Is that a feeling you want to experience again?

I truly believe people come into your life for a particular reason and depart when they are supposed to. Not every love story will be a novel - some are just short stories (for those who are Sex and the City fans!). While it can be hard to let go of someone you care about, you have to consider if they are the right person for you longterm. Once you get into your 30s, you really don’t have time to waste dating the wrong people… that’s what your 20s were for!

xo,

AM